Not sure if I am just a real freak or if it happens every so often to others.

I usually am not too bad before a first date, but for some reason I have got the pre date jitters BADLY today!!

Here are some reccommended remedies (some tried and proven, others not so much)

1. Have a glass of wine while you are getting ready
2. Have a shot of vodka 15 mins before he picks you up...make sure you keep this at one, a few weeks ago before going on a double date a friend and I had around 3 and when we were on our way to the restaurant it hit us and we turned up a little hammered (not a good look)
3. Take a herbal stress relief tablet - these work wonders just make sure you stick with reccommended dosage so you don't end up acting like a space cadet.
4. Speak to a girlfriend while you are getting ready will help keep your mind off it.

Relax, have fun and be yourself :)

i think i should take my own advice!

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A lot of my friends  are at that stage of their relationships when the bank accounts are merged and money is shared.

Not always an easy topic to broach when in a relationship, it can get awkward.
What annoyed me when i was in this situation is when someone who shall not be named was earning at least 3 times what i was but would continue to come to me month after month to borrow from me (then leaving me short for the month)
Ok sure i would always get the money back eventually, BUT when it is to fund a little habit i think this is a definite deal breaker.

I think to a certain degree money does matter because if there is no money it creates stress for one or both people involved and then this flows onto the relationship and creates drama.

One of my guy friends had an interesting perception on this topic " Girls are full of shit, guys with a sense of humour get nowhere". Basically inferring if you want to pull a certain type of lady you need to have a certain amount of mulla.

I mean sure yes dating someone with money does make life a LOT easier ...but personally I have had the opportunity to settle with a man with money who i love as a friend but nothing more, and i have opted not to...in the end it is the recipe for an unhappy, unfulfilled life where yes everything may be paid for but most men in this situation then get the sense of ownership over you. (unless you actually do love them..then eff you, you got lucky!)

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When you  have an ex lurking around the same night spots and common areas such as the supermarket as you, you almost go out expecting to bump into them so you add in that extra effort to look a little better than average.

If you know they are going to be at a party you are going to you automatically put that extra oomph into your outfit to create an 'eff you im still hot' feeling to your night.

Don't get me wrong its not like we want you back....its more we want us to still be hot in your mind.
The worst possible thing is when you are totally in your comfort zone, like i was on the weekend (it has been a long time since i left my ex but i still want to look amazeballs when i see him).
 
I was at the beach with a guy friend (who i might add is still a little soft around the edges after the festive season) who is a good looking guy but not the ideal man i would like my ex to bump into me with and assume i am now dating.

So i did what any girl would do and grabbed all my stuff and quickly (not gracefully)  legged it up the beach to the safety of my car...much to the amusement of my guy friend who didnt move at all except to roll around laughing at me being an absolute spaz.

Now i look back and think why didnt i just sit there and say hi...well its because when i see my ex randomly i don't want to be sitting there hungover as hell with my semi tubby guy friend looking like shite.

Why, even when we sort of don't really care or value our ex's opinions do we have lapses of mild insanity?

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As you can see (if you have read previous blog posts) I have had an interesting last few months dating wise....then something happened over the weekend that has really thrown me.

A very close guy friend (or man friend he is late 30's) who i have known since i was 19 years old has decided that he can't get anything else out there so yep...he has developed some romantic feelings and felt the need to express them.

Ok there are quite a few things wrong with this whole picture that i will point out (i actually just really need a vent to be honest)
1. You told us you were gay when we met you, hence why none of us girls had any problems stayng over the night after boozy dinners.
2. The whole 'i now have feelings for you' is clearly because you have realised you are getting on age wise and have started to freak out.
3. I have known you for like 7 years and never made any indication i feel the same way
4. YOU TOLD US YOU WERE G.A.Y!
5. We know you hire "ladies" to be around
6. If you were ever my type of guy(which you weren't), you aren't now because you lied about being gay for the last 7 years of our friendship so you could be closer to all of us.
7. It has just creeped me out beyond repair now

Basically you just ruined any chance of keeping our friendship by lie of 7 years.


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Starting off the week with a positive mind frame!!

Also have a date this week which i am uber excited about...so lets start the week off right!

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Picking an outfit for a first date can be risky...you don't want to be overdressed but you still want to look banging.

I think best to stick with something semi casual and put on a nice wedge, this way you still have the height and length in the legs but the wedge dresses it down a bit.

It also depends if you are going to a casual restaurant or to a classy upper scale restaurant.

Here are some looks i have tried to copy recently.

Yes i have been on quite a few first dates of late and as you can gather my wardrobe is exhausted and I am too for that matter.

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One of My very close friends just got engaged!!!! i am over the moon for them!

This is in the spirit of Bonitas engagement.

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Pics From: fashionising, cakecentral, tiffany & co, instyle, victorias secret, the flirty guide

A HUGE HUGE HUGE CONGRATS to my dear friends Bonnie and Olle....They got engaged last night!!

Not bad for your average Tuesday night!!!

LOVE YOU BOTH TO THE MOON AND BACK!!

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